Which event should I go to!?!?

Okie, so I'm currently in a very bad situation. My older brother at 57 just died last week from a heart attack and his funeral is 8 hours away (he is a dual U.S.-Canadian citizen) in Chicago, where he lives, while I am in Toronto.



His funeral takes place on Monday, yet I also have a friend who is having a huge dinner party on Monday at a restaurant to celebrate his daughter giving birth to his granddaughter.



I don't want to disappoint my friend, yet I don't want to miss my brother's funeral.



Which should I go to? Which event should I go to!?!?
Seriously?? I hope this is a joke. You're not sure if you should go to your brothers funeral or not???? Hmmm... Well, if you're really not sure - I'd say go to your brothers funeral. If your friend is upset you couldn't make it because you attended your brothers funeral - get a new friend.
if i were you i wouldnt even have to think about this. Go to your older brothers funeral. if you dont go to you bro's funeral you'll be letting him down. not only that, just think of all the things he did for you. and you've known him ur whole life. you've known ur friend for probably just a few years. trust me. ur friend will understand. and when you come back from the funeral you can give your friend and his daughter a little present or maybe invite them to dinner or something. ps. sorry about ur brother.Which event should I go to!?!?
brother's funeral. your brother died this is the only time in your life your going be able to be their. If you even ever loved your brother go your brother death omg thats awful what kind of person are you do you even have heart someone died their never comeing back and your worided about going to dinner wow your selfish and im glad your not my brother


The funeral. Definitely. You can hang out with your friend and congratulate her later, but you should definitely respect your brother's memory. Your friend should understand that you just lost someone close to you, and you want to mourn him.
I think you should go to your older brother's funeral. It's way more important he's family. Your friend will understand why you couldn't make it. The loss of a family member cant be put to the side for a dinner party.
Go to the funeral. It's not for a friend or distant relative - this is your brother!



You could have a small gathering for your friend's daughter when you get back. A considerate friend would understand and give you his support.
It has to be your older brothers funeral. Your family needs you far more that your friend. Send a card and present to your friend. Go to the funeral. Your friend will forgive you. Your family may not.
of course the funeral. You can always send a gift to the granddaughter, everyone should understand. You only get once chance to be able to either grieve or support with everyone together.
Family Means more to me than anythin in the world it should to you too, go to your brothers funeral, hes your brother you should go for him.

Jess xx
Go to your brothers funeral. It's the right thing to do, your friend will understand. Send a nice baby gift to your friend and go to the funeral.
Go to your brother's funeral and drop off a really nice gift at your friend's house for his daughter ($100 American Express gift card is a primo gift).
I cannot even believe you are contemplating going to a dinner party instead of your brother's funeral. This answer is a no-brainer, as far as I am concerned. Family ALWAYS comes first!
I think you should go to your brother's funeral (I'm also sorry about that) it shows respect. I'm sure your friend will understand! It will be the last time you can honor him.
for Pete's sake!! how could you want to go to a dinner party with your brother being dead??? Go to the funeral.
YOUR BROTHERS FUNERAL!... there should be no question about this. wouldnt you want him at yours instead of a party?!
Family first your friend will understand.
Go to both one aftha the other.
Go to your brothers funeral, I'm sure ure friend will understand.
He's your brother DuH
Duh, your brothers funeral. Your friend should understand.
go to bro